My Journey to Grace Entry 1.0 written by Zulay Henao
For the rest of us, our journey to motherhood comes in complex packages, all individually and uniquely demanding, and well, different (for a lack of a better word). I remember turning 35, looking around, and really taking stock of my life in a way that felt almost foreign. I wasn't taking inventory of what I had done in life up that time, my finances, how I was showing up in my career, or my relationships like I usually had. This time, I looked at myself, and felt that I had (up until that moment) really not shown up for the one thing I knew would change my life forever: becoming a mom. I also knew that was something I had been putting off thinking about because I was afraid. Let me be clear. I wasn't afraid that having a child would somehow rob me of a life I loved, I was fearful of
something far more ridiculous and unsettling: Motherhood might not be something God had not planned out for me. Why do you ask? That topic will be for another blog (a much more vulnerable one). Suffice it to say that had been a dark place for me for a long time growing up in a very religious household, being a non-married woman, and having all of these haunting indoctrination of sorts. I had to shed a lot of fear and shame, and ultimately, forgive myself. This is where GRACE comes in.
For so long, I had lived a self created sort of inner hell where I felt so undeserving. I went through a period of a lot of self reflection, alone time, therapy, shedding of antiquated (just flat out erroneous) ideas of God, and really coming to understand the truth of God's unconditional, radical and unrelentless love for me. Then, my life changed. I don’t want to make this discourse about that. Like I said, there is a lot more to the story, but I felt it important to at least mention my mental state for a period of time. Who knows? That may be a book idea for me in the future! For now, let’s move on! Having a new sense of self, of my Creator's deep love, and never-ending fire for me, I took action. I began to actively speak motherhood into my life in all the ways possible! I would see a woman with a stroller and declare, “That is for ME!" and I would say things like, “When I become a mom!” I introduced the idea into every meditation, and launched it into the field of all possibility on a daily basis. It became a part of me, and no longer something I feared was out of my reach. I envisioned myself in the role of mommy, and in a solid relationship where I was free, safe to explore, and voice my inner most desires. I met a wonderful man who wanted the same things I did, who wasn't afraid of telling me so, and who welcomed my vulnerability like the superpower it is. It was powerful stuff to be empowered by self-love, to look myself in the eyes, and claim the desires of my heart as valid and real. (Louise Haye has a wonderful exercise for this) Here is the link!
Everyday, in every way, I became more alive viscerally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically on my journey to motherhood. Here I am today in my second trimester, living my dream out loud, and in full vivid color. Let’s stop here for now, and let's call this my prologue to the blog. The story continues on to: facing the truths and realities of female fertility, the depths and pain of miscarriage, letting go, forgiveness (again), surviving, thriving, and GRACE (always more Grace).
Thank you my love for sharing such a powerful,pivoting and at time, painful part of your life as it will shine and maybe give other women inspiration to carry out their inner dreams. Motherhood is the greatest gift God gave us .I’m glad you’re part of it as you are be a Bella Madre ❤️😘